Infertility – Letting Go Of The Shame

A trip to the mall.  A stop at the grocery store.  A dinner out.  Simple, every day tasks.

Unless you struggle with infertility.

Then these “simple” activities can turn into painful and challenging events.  And sometimes even make you feel shameful.

I’m not just saying this as someone who has heard a lot about infertility or has friends that have dealt with it.

photo credit: morefertile.com

photo credit: morefertile.com

I’ve been thereReally been there.  I’ve had to say no to invites from friends that were expecting because I just couldn’t be around them.  I’ve had to try to put a smile on my face while listening to someone talk about how they were upset that they found out they got pregnant again without trying.  I’ve had to excuse myself from conversations about how overjoyed someone is to be done having kids.

In addition to the hurt I’ve also felt the shame.  The shame of being different and feeling like I don’t fit in.  The shame of having a body that doesn’t work right.  The shame of not feeling like a true woman.

But there is one more aspect of my struggle with infertility that has made me feel the most shame.  The path I chose to deal with it.

In 2006 I had my first appointment with my endocrinologist.  It led me down a path of a variety of fertility drugs and treatments.  After various attempts and a diagnosis of both male and female factor infertility, my husband and I proceeded with in-vitro fertilization.

We were very blessed that I got pregnant on the first try.  And now I have a beautiful, smart, creative little girl who just turned 5.

But the journey was far from over.  In early 2010 I was first starting to learn about real food and natural health…while in the midst of trying for another child.  I had already been through two failed attempts via IVF.  And was in the middle of a third.

As I learned more and more about real food I became more and more hopeful.  Maybe I could heal my body and restore my fertility without all of the medications and procedures.  Maybe.

photo credit: powerhealths.com

photo credit: powerhealths.com

I went on to do 3 more IVF transfers.  And after a lot of heart-break and physical endurance I now have a wonderful son who is just about to turn 2.

I was overjoyed when I got to this point.  I was opening up and sharing my story in hopes of giving others hope.  But I didn’t expect what came from sharing my story…more shame.

In the world of real food and natural health, saying that you conceived via IVF is kind of like saying you feed your kids fast food and candy bars every day for lunch.  I got some nasty remarks and questions.  How could I promote a natural lifestyle and support “unnatural” fertility treatments at the same time?

I’ve thought and prayed about it a lot.  I’ve felt the shame…and I’ve let go of the shame.

Although I fully support natural means of improving fertility and health,  I also know that this was my path.  I started my journey with infertility before I even knew what real food was.  I’ve also learned that real food doesn’t always work.  It really can help most of the time.  But sometimes no matter how hard you try there are things that you can’t change.

No matter how many raw egg yolks and plates of liver I eat, no matter how much raw milk I drink, no matter how many detox baths I take, no matter how many supplements or vitamins or herbs I take, no matter how much yoga I do or how much sleep I get…my fertility status will not likely change.

I have a condition called polyfollicular ovaries.  And to this day I’ve never heard of any real food remedy for it.  I’ve never found any research that explains what causes this or how to treat it (aside from working around it with IVF).  I don’t know what hormones control it.  The only solution I know of is time…some day when my egg supply diminishes my body will hopefully work normally.  It could be tomorrow.  It could be when I’m 45.

But I still deserve to be a mother.  God created my children and gave them to me.  Not a doctor.  Not a pill.

I don’t know what is going on inside my body.  But I do know that I don’t have to be ashamed.  This is the way God made me.  I didn’t cause this.  I’m not eating the wrong food.  I’m not lacking in effort to give my body the nourishment it needs.  I am fully supportive of natural fertility, health and healing.  I strive each day to keep my own family healthy.

But I also know that sometimes things don’t go the way we would like.  And sometimes we have to let go of our ideal situation.

If you’ve struggled with infertility please don’t be ashamed.  You are still just as complete and worthy as any other woman.  No matter what road you’ve been down know that you are right where you need to be.  Be kind to yourself.  Accept yourself.  Let go of the shame.

This is National Infertility Awareness Week.  Get informed.  Be aware.  Never be ashamed or make anyone else feel ashamed.

Mary Voogt is a follower of Christ, a wife, and a mother of two. After 6 years as an electrical engineer she now stays home full time. She is passionate about real food and enjoys spending lots of time in the kitchen cooking and baking from scratch. She blogs at Homemade Dutch Apple Pie on a variety of topics including digestive issues, OCD, anxiety, infertility, natural parenting and healthy food.

Save The Color For the Eggs. Your Kids Will Thank You.

You may not be able to tell by looking out your window, but it is finally spring!  And Easter is only a few days away.

Time for Easter eggs, baskets full of candy, bright colors – signs of new life.  But if life is what you’re concerned with you might want to take a second look at all those colors.

photo credit glogster.com

photo credit glogster.com

Colored food and candy is appealing, especially to small children.  We eat first with our eyes.  So naturally kids will be excited by a basket full of brightly colored treats.

A few jellybeans.  A handful of colored chocolates.  A marshmallow chick.  Innocent fun.  An ok treat here and there.  Right?

Not really.  Artificial coloring is very harmful…for everyone.

Even if you avoid the obvious brightly colored candies you still might be getting more artificial coloring in your diet than you think.  Crackers, macaroni and cheese, fruit snacks, chips, cereal, jello, sweetened beverages, yogurt, ice cream, ketchup, fruit skins, meats.  The list goes on and on.  It is even in products such as toothpaste, shampoos and medicine.

A small amount of food dye can have a big impact.  Depending on the color and variety it can cause many kinds of tumors and cancer.  It can also cause damage to a growing child’s brain and lower IQ.

One of the biggest side effects of artificial coloring is hyperactivity and inattentiveness.  Does your child have some ADD/ADHD symptoms?  Are you struggling with behavioral/obedience problems?  Before you try to get a diagnosis start with your family’s diet.

I have experienced this first hand with my daughter.  After trial and error we discovered that she has a very strong reaction to any kind of food coloring.  It makes a huge impact on her behavior.

Do you feel bad taking away these “treats” from your child?  Try to look at the situation differently.  We have adopted a strict no food coloring policy for our kids.  It might be hard to say no to a few gummies or a sucker.  But this is the best “treat” we can give them…being able to feel good and have control over their minds and bodies.

photo credit robinhoodintegrativehealth.com

photo credit robinhoodintegrativehealth.com

My daughter is very smart, creative and funny.  I love allowing her to think clearly and let her true personality shine.  It’s heartbreaking when she can’t do that, when she seems out of control or in a fog.  And by allowing her to consume foods with artificial coloring I am taking away that freedom.  Not much of a treat is it?

The first step in tackling this problem is reading all food labels carefully and checking for harmful substances.  You might be surprised what you find.  Take a look at this list of ingredients.  Can you tell what this is?

“Skim milk, sugar, strawberry puree, whey, contains less than 2% of sodium tripolyphosphate, modified food starch, pasteurized milk and cream, sodium citrate, salt, artificial color, xanthan gum, potassium sorbate and calcium propionate as preservatives, carrageenan, citric acid, cheese culture, sodium phosphate, natural flavor, artificial flavor, red 40, carob bean gum, vitamin a palmitate”

These are the ingredients in strawberry cream cheese.  Artificial color and red 40.  No thank you.

In addition to dyes and colors check for sodium benzoate.  It has the same effect on your health.

Once you eliminate foods with artificial coloring and dyes you can move on to making your own goodies.  Use real food to color your food.  Want to make something pink?  Use strawberry juice or jam.  How about green?  Try avocado.  Have fun experimenting with foods like blueberries, beets and carrots to add color to your baked goods.

Or better yet…leave out the color.  Who said mint ice cream should be green?  It’s actually white or yellow (depending on whether or not you add egg yolks).  If you really want colorful food reach for fruits and vegetables.  And leave the treats their true color.  Don’t worry, they’ll still taste great even if they aren’t neon colored.

photo credit thehotsheetblog.com

photo credit thehotsheetblog.com

Check those Easter baskets and your cupboards.  Get rid of anything that contains artificial colors or dyes.  You’re giving your family a wonderful gift and a fresh start by keeping these harmful substances out of their diet.  Save the artificial coloring for the Easter eggs.  Just be sure not to eat them.

Mary Voogt is a follower of Christ, a wife, and a mother of two. After 6 years as an electrical engineer she now stays home full time. She is passionate about real food and enjoys spending lots of time in the kitchen cooking and baking from scratch. She blogs at Homemade Dutch Apple Pie on a variety of topics including digestive issues, OCD, anxiety, infertility, natural parenting and healthy food.

Thankful At Every Age

We are all busy.  We all get stressed, anxious and worn out, especially around the holidays.  There are parties, kids, meals, work, errands, etc.

Add to an already crazy life the onset of colds and flu, homework and school schedules and attempting to keep your holiday festivities full of real, healthy food.  I’m guilty myself of trying to do too much and then feeling overwhelmed.  A negative attitude sets in and life gets even tougher.

This year I want to make our holidays different.  What if instead of trying to take on the world we simply stop and give thanks?

This is a great lesson to teach your children.  We can and should be thankful at every age.

I took a moment recently to sit down with my four-year old daughter to find out what she’s thankful for.  She made her own thankful list (as you can see).  Then I did the same.

It was a great exercise to do together.  And it made me smile to see that our lists were quite similar.  Right down to being thankful for ice cream.

Focusing on what we have instead of what we want or what is going wrong is wonderful at Thanksgiving.  But it shouldn’t stop there.

Try focusing on being thankful when you’re making your Christmas lists or buying presents.  Try focusing on being thankful when the little ones are sick and you’re not sure you can manage one more sleepless night.

photo courtesy of my daughter

Try focusing on being thankful EVERY SINGLE DAY.

It is a great habit that will impact your whole day and have a positive influence on your children and everyone around you.

It doesn’t cost money.  It doesn’t take much time.  It doesn’t involve a change in your diet.  It is not complicated.

But it can help you lead a happier and healthier life.

Take a moment today to think about, talk about or write about what you’re thankful for.  You may be surprised by how blessed you really are and how much joy there is in your life that you’ve been overlooking.

Start with some of the big things like family, friends, a good job.  Then every day start focusing on the little things like a healthy home cooked meal or a refrigerator stocked with farm fresh eggs or a hug and kiss from your spouse and kids.

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of each day.  This holiday season challenge yourself to truly be thankful.  Then teach your children to do the same.  It’s a healthy habit that can be done at any age.

What are some of the little things you’re thankful for?  How do you focus your family’s attention on being thankful instead of always wanting around the holidays and throughout the year?

Mary Voogt is a follower of Christ, a wife, and a mother of two. After 6 years as an electrical engineer she now stays home full time. She is passionate about real food and enjoys spending lots of time in the kitchen cooking and baking from scratch. She blogs at Homemade Dutch Apple Pie on a variety of topics including digestive issues, OCD, anxiety, infertility, natural parenting and healthy food.

When It’s Cold Outside Get Crafty Inside

I’ll be honest.  I’m not a fan of cold weather.  I’ve lived in Michigan my entire life.  But I still don’t like the cold.

I do believe it’s healthy to get outside as much as you can…so we do.  But it’s also nice sometimes to stay inside.  So as soon as the weather gets cooler I’m looking for fun indoor activities.

Around here that means it’s time to get crafty.  Here are some easy fall crafts and activities to do with your kids or by yourself!

  1. Paint with fruits and vegetables – Slice any fruit or vegetable to use as a stamp.  You get all different shapes and sizes.  Plus you can use up produce that is getting old.
  2. Make placemats with wax paper – Use leaves or color a picture and place them between two pieces of wax paper.  Iron the paper until both sides stick together.  Trim the edges.
  3. Make all of your fall/Thanksgiving decorations from nature – Go on a scavenger hunt in your yard or a local park to find sticks, pine-cones, leaves, rocks, etc.  Then get creative making decorations with them.
  4. Make Christmas cards and gifts – It may be early for some, but if you start making cards and gifts now you’ll be less stressed when Christmas approaches.  Plus you’ll have unique, heartfelt, homemade gifts for your friends and family.  Homemade baked goods and spice blends make great presents, as do crafts that you and your children create.
  5. Paint pottery – Find a local paint-your-own pottery studio (like Naked Plates) and create your own masterpiece.  This is a great thing to do with your kids.  Make a serving dish together and use it at all of your holiday gatherings.  Your kids will be so proud.
  6. Make Halloween costumes – There’s still time!  Instead of spending a lot of money to buy a costume, let your kids help make their own.  See how creative you can be using what you have at home.  Is that a fairy princess chef I see?
  7. Recreate the first Thanksgiving – Have your kids help make pilgrim and Indian costumes.  Read about the first Thanksgiving and put on a play.  You can even make a mini feast of what they may have eaten.
  8. Make a countdown chain – Make paper chains to count down to Thanksgiving and Christmas.  Then let your kids cut one ring off each day.
  9. Make art with food…and eat it! – Provide an assortment of sliced fruits, vegetables, nuts, crackers and dips (nut butters, pesto, hummus, etc.) and let your child get creative.  Make a picture on a plate (maybe a face or an animal or even something abstract).  Then eat it!  You can take a picture to capture their creation.
  10. Write a book – Help your child write their own book.  Fold blank paper.  Let them create a story.  If they are young you can write the story as they tell it.  If they are older they can write it themselves.  Then they can illustrate it.  After the book is finished read it together…over and over.  It’s a great way to help them be creative.

Fall is a wonderful time to be outside, breathe the crisp air and see the beauty of nature.  But it’s also a great time to be creative with your kids inside.  It doesn’t have to cost a lot or take a lot of time to stir their imagination and spend quality time together.  Plus you can get some of your holiday preparation done in advance.

What sort of fun activities do you do indoors once the weather becomes cooler?

Mary Voogt is a follower of Christ, a wife, and a mother of two. After 6 years as an electrical engineer she now stays home full time. She is passionate about real food and enjoys spending lots of time in the kitchen cooking and baking from scratch. She blogs at Homemade Dutch Apple Pie on a variety of topics including digestive issues, OCD, anxiety, infertility, natural parenting and healthy food.

Active, Educational Summer Activities For Kids of All Ages

It’s summer. All of the regular activities are done and school is out. So now what?

Here are a five fun activities to keep the kids busy, healthy and learning this summer.

Farmers Market

photo credit: 86805724@N00

1. Farmer’s Market

Taking weekly trips to the local farmer’s market is a great way to get outside, and teach your kids about real food. And letting your kids help pick out fresh produce is also a way to get them to eat more fruits and vegetables.

Eating seasonal, local fare will really give you and your kids a taste of summer – fruits and vegetables at their peak can’t be beat.

There are quite a few farmer’s markets in the area (you can search for one close to you at Local Harvest) and every Tuesday my kids hop in the wagon, and we walk to the Grandville market.

We love our little walk, and we stock up on fresh produce so we can preserve it for the rest of the year. My daughter even likes to help me pick out what we buy and enjoys trying new things.

And visiting the market is also a great way to meet local farmers and learn more about your community.

2. John Ball Zoo

The zoo is a fun place to get fresh air and exercise and learn about animals.

John Ball Zoo is great because it’s small enough that it doesn’t take a whole day to see all of the animals and yet there is still so much to see:

  • you can feed some of the animals and take camel rides
  • there is a zip line and rope course
  • there is a petting zoo and play train
  • and new this year is a funicular

John Ball Zoo is great for a quick outing or an afternoon of picnicking and fun. Memberships are also very affordable so you can enjoy it all year-long.

childrens literature

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3. Library

Looking for a rainy day activity? Check out your local library!

The library is a wonderful place to learn and play. There are toys, computers and of course….books. Our local libraries also offer summer reading programs with incentives for the kids to keep reading through the summer. Visiting the library is a great activity for kids of all ages.

And the best part? You get to bring the fun home.

Check out a few (or a lot) of books and keep learning all summer long. Reading with your children is one of the best things you can do for them.

4. Grand Rapids Children’s Museum

Another great place for learning and never-ending fun is the Grand Rapids Children’s Museum. It has many hands on activities for a wide range of ages. The GRCM has activities all summer long (view the event list).

The theme for June is Fur, Fins and Feathers.

You can even get a membership to GRCM as well to enjoy it the whole year-long. The museum is even open in the evenings on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

After church fun. <3 summer!

photo credit: donielle

5. Parks

What’s summer without a trip to the park?

West Michigan has a great selection of parks, so make sure you find one near you. And a walk to the park is a great way to get exercise and soak up some Vitamin D.

It is also a great place to meet with other families for socializing, so pack everyone up and enjoy company and fellowship.

Summer is a great time for learning, fresh foods and lots of fun. Get out (or in!) and enjoy it.

How do you stay active (and learn) during the summer with your kids?

 

Mary Voogt is a follower of Christ, a wife, and a mother of two. After 6 years as an electrical engineer she now stays home full time. She is passionate about real food and enjoys spending lots of time in the kitchen cooking and baking from scratch. She blogs at Homemade Dutch Apple Pie on a variety of topics including digestive issues, OCD, anxiety, infertility, natural parenting and healthy food.

15 Minutes Outside

I recently read 15 Minutes Outside, 365 ways to get out of the house and connect with your kids by Rebecca P. Cohen.

Actually, I read it when it was 80 degrees outside back in March.

It was so easy to make sure my kids got outside everyday then. But now we’re back to chilly and windy and I tend to keep myself in the warmth of my house. So I pulled this book out again for some new ideas.

Being outside helps with our mood and our overall health, yet we tend to spend so much of our day inside. And I’ve also found that my children are much more creative when they aren’t allowed their normal indoor toys. They find buckets and sticks to make soup. They build cities in the sand box, and they roll their trucks down the hill.

The benefits are many as well. I find that when we ALL go outside (adults need to get out there too!) we get along better, we sleep better, and we’re also more productive later.

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How You Can Save 20 Trees on this Earth Day

Earth Day is soon approaching us and we are encouraged by many to plant a tree, walk to a destination instead of driving, and recycle a can or two.

But how about saving 20 trees, 60 pounds of chlorine and 420 gallons of petroleum?

That is the consumption of one baby in disposable diapers from birth to potty training.

Now let’s talk about landfill waste – disposable diapers take anywhere from 200-500 years to decompose and they also contain raw human sewage that over time can leak into our ground, leading to contamination of our water systems.

But what a leap it is to decide that you will no longer just toss a dirty diaper in to a trash can, but now you must flush the poop down the toilet. Did you know that you are supposed to flush the poop away even when using a disposable diaper? It says so right on most packages, yet less than 1% of parents actually do this.

cloth diapers

Are you convinced yet that you need to try cloth? If you are teetering which way to go you should know how easy, cute, hip and cost effective they really are. BumGenius, Bummis, FuzziBunz and Smart bottoms, who would not want these on their little ones butt?

There is a cloth diapering system to fit any budget and every lifestyle.

Cloth wipes are another way to lean toward the greener side of Earth Day, with an investment of under $50 you can say goodbye to wasteful wipes that contain alcohol that dries baby skin out and preservatives that allow them an extended shelf life. Cloth wipes are soft and super cute and allow for a savings on your wallet of about $700. Just wash and dry in your washing machine with your cloth diapers and you will not have to worry about ever running out to the store in the middle of nap time again!

cloth diapers

So as we countdown to a day where we celebrate this earth and all things green, consider making a lifestyle change that will benefit your wallet, the health of your baby and this home we call earth. Change does not come easy to some and yes you will have some hurdles when making a switch to cloth or deciding on cloth for your newborn, but no one said natural parenting would be easy. In a society where we value convenience over quality of a product it takes some self confidence to declare your natural love and stick to it!

Happy Earth Day and happy cloth diapering!

 

Candis DeBoer is a cloth diaper lover who not only uses cloth diapers but tries to pass her love of cloth on to other natural living parents in her store, EcoBuns, located in Holland,MI. 



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Latch On {grand rapids} August 6th

This Saturday, 10:30 am, in Rosa Parks Circle downtown will be a gathering of women and babies for an event called The Big Latch On. Friends of mine put this together in order to show support for breastfeeding moms – I’m so proud of what these ladies do! Unfortunately I can’t make it as it’s my son’s 5th birthday, but I hope you join them downtown.

 

Nursing mothers of West Michigan – UNITE! Together we will be a unique and beautiful part of Grand Rapids history.

On Saturday 6th August 2011 at 10:30am (local time*) in locations across the USA, nursing mothers will gather to celebrate World Breastfeeding Week and try to break the record for the most women breastfeeding simultaneously!

At each registered location, witnesses will count all the mamas and babes that are latched on for one minute AT 10:30am.

*please arrive at least 30mins early (so, at 10:00 AM) so you can be registered before the count (at 10:30).

Grand Rapids Location Details:

Join us for this public celebration of breastfeeding! All mothers are welcome – covered and uncovered. It is important for us to unite and express to the world that breastfeeding is not only acceptable in public, but essential so that future generations will be more likely to breastfeed. This statement says a lot, not only to people who may or may not see it, but to new and future mothers. We must let them know that breastfeeding is not only OK – it is beautiful and healthy.

The first 50 moms will receive some sweet swag bags provided by local businesses who fully support breastfeeding mothers. If you are a local business who would like to express your support, please e mail us at crowninglotus@yahoo.com♥

For more information about this event, please visit the Big Latch On website or on Facebook:

Please help out by volunteering or helping us spread the word. Thank you so much. ♥



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Tips for Boosting Milk Supply

Pecho y lectura

photo credit: daquellamanera

 

A guest post by Shannon. Wife, a mother of two boys and a passionate advocate of breastfeeding and homebirth. She is the author of Nourishing Days where she writes about real food and sustainable living.
I think everyone knows that breastfeeding is infinitely superior to bottle feeding. There are many health benefits for both baby and mom that you can not receive through formula. More than that, though, there is a physical and emotional bond between a breastfeeding mother and her baby that is unlike any other.

Breastfeeding can also be frustrating, painful and disappointing when it doesn’t go as you had planned. I have written about my struggle with breastfeeding and I would like to share with you what I have learned from that experience.

Resources For Boosting Milk Supply

Ideally right after birth our babies would latch on and for the next couple of days get as much immune boosting colostrum as possible. Then, a few days after birth, our milk would come in providing ample nutrition for our babes. For the next few years our babies would have a constant supply of nourishment literally attached to us everywhere we went. That would be ideal.
Unfortunately, breastfeeding doesn’t always run this smoothly. When your baby isn’t getting enough to eat you need to boost supply and you need to do it as fast as possible.

Here a few resources that can help to boost your supply:

  • Pumping and more frequent nursing. This is the first thing we must focus on because our bodies will produce a higher supply of milk when there is a greater demand for it.
  • Herbs. Herbs such as fenugreek, blessed thistle, nettles, shatavari and goat’s rue are ones that I have tried and found helpful. These come in the form of capsules, loose leaf teas and tinctures.
  • Eat galactogogues. A galactogogue is a substance that is purported to increase milk supply. A few of them include oats, quinoa, brewer’s yeast and mineral-rich leafy greens.  Lactation cookies are one way to help boost your intake.
  • Drink lots of water. Drink to thirst and then some. My midwife gave me instructions to drink enough so that I am getting up to go to the bathroom every hour during the day.
  • Get lots of rest. I know that it seems silly to even suggest this because of the circumstances. I have a very difficult time with this myself, as there is always someone to feed or housework to be done. Hand over the reigns to a mother, sister, friend or post-partum doula. My osteopath said “the best baby gift anyone could give is to tuck you into bed with your baby and cook you some really nourishing food.”
  • Find a support system. Find a lactation consultant, get in touch with la leche league, find a lactivist doctor, join a breastfeeding group. They will not only encourage and supply you with information, but they will give you the opportunity to be comfortable nursing in front of others.

When You Must Supplement
If all of the above don’t work and your baby is losing weight rapidly, you may want to consider supplementation.
The first question is what should we feed baby?

  • Do you have a close friend or relative who is lactating? If so you may want to consider asking them for help. This is called cross-nursing or wet-nursing. This woman could either pump her extra milk and supply it to your baby or breastfeed him or her herself. This is very common in less industrialized nations and was the best solution for mothers before the invention and mass-marketing of infant formula. I still believe that this is the best solution.
  • Consider getting milk from a breast milk bank. If you are comfortable receiving milk from anonymous donors this might work for you.
  • Make homemade formula. This is the option that we chose and have found it to work very well for both of our boys. Their are many reasons NOT to use commercial infant formula, and homemade formula is a well-researched substitute. We have used both the cow’s and goat’s milk formula recipes and have found success with both.
When you do start to supplement make sure that you are not nursing or pumping less frequently. I found a good pattern in nursing baby, supplementing baby and then pumping.
The second question is what equipment do we use to supplement?
  • What if you could supplement baby without having to give him/her a bottle? The lact-aid allows you to do this. There will be no nipple confusion or less frequent nursing sessions as the baby is supplemented at the breast while nursing.
  • If you are concerned about bottle feeding, there are alternative methods.
  • If you decide to bottle feed consider using glass bottles instead of plastic. There are many reasons to avoid plastic, especially in baby bottles.

I will leave you with this – enjoy it! Those precious moments with that sweet babe slip away so fast and yet it is so easy to stress through the whole process. Take a deep breath, get the help you need and continue on in your breastfeeding journey together.

Did you struggle with low milk supply? What steps did you take to increase it?

 

 

This post was originally posted at Naturally Knocked Up on March 3, 2009



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West Michigan Home Birth Midwives

Many women in our area choose to deliver their babies at home, in a setting most comfortable to them. We are fortunate to have several local midwives that assist in these deliveries with pre and post natal care as well as bringing attentive care to the family throughout labor and delivery.

Each one of these wonderful midwives have their own unique personality and their own way of assisting during your birth, so make sure you call each one to find the right fit for you and your family.

 

Local Midwives:

{attending births within Grand Rapids and surrounding areas}

Your HomeBirth, Shannon Pawson, CPM – 616-295-1128

midwifeWhether you are pregnant or just thinking about it, considering midwifery care is a great step towards a fulfilling and empowering pregnancy and birth. Homebirth and midwives are proven safe options for childbearing. Most healthy women do not need medications or technology to conceive, birth or grow their babies. With information, support and attentive guidance, a woman will use her inherent wisdom to care for herself and her baby peacefully and powerfully.

 

 

Birth Song Midwifery Services, Yolanda Visser, CPM, CM – (616) 458-8144

“My goal is to have a direct, open, and honest approach to care. Each woman is unique and should be honored as such. When we are involved in our care, pregnancy is a lot more fun. We are more responsible in preventive terms, which helps to alleviate fears. With active participation we truly are more informed and empowered.”

 

MI Homebirth, Laura Slater – 616.456.5967

“I believe in the ability of women to give birth safely and naturally without intervention. Pregnancy and birth are natural, normal functions of a woman’s body, while Giving Birth is an empowering, transforming event. It is an integral part of the development of womanhood that helps prepare and equip us for parenting and one of the most rewarding acts a woman does in her lifetime.”

 

Simply Born, Sara Badger – (616) 452-7355

I believe that women can birth.  I think that women need to be  encouraged and empowered to let their bodies do exactly what they need  to do.  I believe that pregnancy and birth are healthy and normal events  in a woman’s life.  As a midwife, I feel that it is my honor and  responsibility to nurture and create the space for the women I serve on  the journey to motherhood.  I recognize that in pregnancy many women  experience great physical, emotional, social and spiritual changes, and  it is my intention to support women and families in this time of  transformation.

 

Home Birth Partners, Susan Wente, CNM, Dr.PH – (231)519-1081

“We know that if a healthy woman is put in the supportive and nurturing environment of home that Home Birth Partners. Although Susan has 20 years of hospital midwifery experience, the focus of a homebirth is “hands off” unless medical issues arise. It is our desire to bring the focus in childbearing back to where it belongs: to the mother, father, the baby and the family that the birth is creating. The majority of healthy women can deliver safely and comfortably in the home with a trained midwife.”

 

If you know of any other local home birth midwives, feel free to let me know so that I can add them to not only this post but to our resources page as well.



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